In the Netflix movie “Stutz,” Jonah Hill talked to his mom about trying to get him to lose weight as a kid.
He said being an overweight child made him feel inherently “bad” due to messages from society, his doctor and his mother.
Hill said he used to think the female figures in his life wouldn’t accept his looks because of his childhood experience.
Jonah Hill sat down with his mother Sharon Lyn Chalkin to have an honest conversation about how his attempts to help him lose weight as an overweight child impacted his adult relationships with women.
Their conversation took place in “Stutz,” a Netflix documentary Hill directed about her therapist, psychiatrist Phil Stutz. Stutz is known for co-authoring the self-help book “The Tools,” which outlines visual and experiential exercises for healing and personal growth.
In “Stutz”, Hill has a conversation with Stutz about how he avoided exercise as an adult due to the negative messages he received about it as a child. As an overweight child, Hill said his mother and doctor were looking for ways for him to lose weight. He said society’s messages about his size made him feel “bad” and “not right for the world“, and his mother’s weight loss aid reinforced that.
It also negatively affected Hill’s relationship with Chalkin and the women he knew as adults, he said in the film.
“It immediately put you in the position of being an adversary, like, ‘He’s the person who doesn’t accept me,'” Hill told Chalkin.
“It’s the idea that the female figure won’t accept how you look,” Hill added.
When Chalkin joined the conversation with Hill and Stutz, she said she believed Hill should lose weight at the time. She went on to say that her thinking stemmed from her own childhood, where her mother would say, “You are tall like your father.” Chalkin said it stuck with her as an adult and she was afraid to make sure her family was the right size.
“I was just doing what I thought was right,” Chalkin told Hill. She also said she never considered the impact her actions might have on Hill’s future relationships and thanked him for sharing her experience.
Hill told Chalkin he didn’t blame her for trying to help him lose weight. He said realizing that a young Chalkin probably felt the same way he did when he was a child helped him come to terms with what happened.
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